Why you should take a personality test

personality testI don’t know about you, but a personality test is often irresistible to me, no matter how unscientific or ridiculous. I see an new online personality test on Facebook nearly every day and each one looks like fun. I guess most people love to know more about themselves even if the information is completely useless. Who cares what Disney princess I am or what my pirate name should be?

Sometimes, though, it might feel easier to take a personality test about which animal you would be, than to take a personality test that would give you real information about yourself.

The process of self discovery can be scary. The word “test” can make it seem like there is a correct score. Maybe you struggle with self-acceptance and wish your results were different.

Or you might be concerned with how the information will be used if you’re taking a personality test during an interview. TIME magazine recently did a cover feature on how much personality testing is now part of the hiring process.

Still, raising your own self-awareness and understanding others is a valuable endeavor. A well-crafted, scientifically established personality test (I actually prefer the term “behavioral assessment”) can:

  1. Identify & validate your strength behaviors
  2. Show what kind of environment is best for your success
  3. Explain your stress behaviors and how to manage them
  4. Confirm your interests and organizational focus

At the same time, an assessment like the Birkman helps you understand that other people are different and that this is positive. This allows you to develop better communication and teamwork. Dr. Birkman’s priority in developing the Birkman Method was to help us appreciate diversity and overcome underlying assumptions like:

  • I’m normal – it is other people who are not normal.
  • Other people experience/perceive things the same way I do.
  • There is one best way to accomplish something.
  • The way someone behaves is how they also wish to be treated.

These assumptions are hurdles in every relationship and the Birkman is like a road map that helps you effectively navigate these hurdles. That’s something we can all benefit from.

What do you like or dislike about personality tests? Tell me about your experiences in the comments!

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Decision-Making and the Will of God

Decision Making and the Will of God Today, I’m doing one of my favourite kinds of posts: a book review. It’s helping me ease back into the practice of blogging – I’m feeling rusty. Plus, I really want you to know about this book because I loved it! It’s called Decision-Making and the Will of God by Garry Friesen and J. Robin Maxson. I don’t know how it hadn’t crossed my path yet as it’s somewhat of a classic (I read the 25th Anniversary edition). Thankfully, it was recommended to me recently and now I get to recommend it to you!

Decision-making can be extremely stressful. Who hasn’t felt the pressure of making a good decision? Especially about BIG items like what to do with your life or who to marry. If those are questions you’re struggling with, this book is an excellent aide in helping you understand a biblical model for making decisions.

In Part 1 & 2, Friesen critiques what he calls the traditional view of decision-making. He defines it like this:

  • Premise: For each of our decisions, God has a perfect plan or will. 
  • Purpose: The goal of the believer is to discover God’s individual will and make decisions in accordance with it. 
  • Process: The believer interprets inner impressions and outward signs, which the Holy Spirit uses to communicate God’s individual will.
  • Proof: The confirmation that one has correctly discerned the individual will of God comes from an inner sense of peace and outward (successful) results of the decision. 

I really appreciated how well he articulated these points – most of us haven’t articulated our thoughts around decision-making this clearly and once they are stated this way, you immediately start to see the flaws in them. Friesen thoroughly annihilates this position with verse-by-verse commentary. This was very helpful for me as I have always had issues with this view of decision-making but wasn’t necessarily able to put a finger on what bothered me, much less provide evidence for why there was a problem.

Part 3 explains the alternative model to the “traditional” view that Friesen proposes. He calls it “The way of wisdom” and exhaustively backs up the principles (see below) with scriptural examples.

  1. Where God commands, we must obey. 
  2. Where there is no command, God gives us freedom (and responsibility) to choose. 
  3. Where there is no comman, God gives us wisdom to choose. 
  4. When we have chosen what is moral and wise, we must trust the sovereign God to work all the details together for good. 

After that, it just keeps getting better. In Part 4, Friesen does us all a huge favor and provides chapters discussing what it looks like to make wise decisions in major areas of our lives like marriage, ministry, missions and giving. He takes the model from the abstract to the concrete with very practical examples.

I especially appreciated the chapters on “Wisdom When Christians Differ” and “Weaker Brothers, Pharisees, and Servants.” He stresses the importance of taking the time to “cultivate your own convictions” in areas of freedom that are often up for debate.

Even the appendices have lots to offer: He reviews other books on decision-making and God’s will, provides some practical tools for memorizing Scripture and explains how to hold “Bible Marathons” where you read large chunks of the Bible in one sitting.

At 526 pages, it’s a thick book so it might feel too intimidating to open. Trust me, it’s very easy to read and even if you don’t have time to read it all, going through all of the concise, logical, bullet-point summaries will still give you plenty to consider.

Have you read Decision-Making and the Will of God? What did you think?

Did I meet my 2013 Goals?

For some reason, I’ve been thinking about this post all month so I guess it’s time to write it. In January I recorded some 2013 goals:

So here are some of the things I hope to see happen this year (in no particular order of importance):

  • I will learn to sew (got a beautiful machine for Christmas for the in-laws!!)
  • I will blog 2-3x per week about whatever I want
  • I will throw a birthday party for Canon for the first time
  • I will run some workshops on Finding Your Calling
  • I will write some articles for magazines (this is something I always think about and never actually do)
  • I will organize my house (I am actually super stoked about this because I read a fabulous book at my mom’s and have already started with some of the smaller spaces in our house and tomorrow, John and I are going to do a kitchen overhaul!)

This year, I get to figure out if I can bring in some income while staying at home with Canon and I get to continue to figure out what role I play in John’s photography business. I’m excited to see where these adventures lead us. And who knows, maybe at some point another book will start percolating.

In June, I checked in on my goals and now that we’ve come to mid-December, I return to this list to see how it all panned out.

2013 Goals Reached:

  • I did blog 2-3x a week (a few weeks it was only once) and I was able to broaden my subjects and feel free to write about whatever I wanted. I really enjoyed that!
  • I definitely threw a birthday party for Canon’s first birthday. It was manageable and it was fun. Two important requirements in my book. Canon got to meet my mom’s parents for the first time which was a wonderful surprise.
  • I did mostly organize the house and garage. Has it come unorganized? Yes, in places. But I am happy to note that some of the structures we set in place are still holding up. Our house and garage really just need to be cleaned and tidied rather than re-organized at this point. Although I never did conquer the office . . . ahem . . . John’s domain . . . ahem.
  • I did figure out a way to bring in some extra income by getting my Birkman certification and opening up a “business” side of My Calling IQ. While so far this income stream is minor to non-existent, I am glad it’s there and I hope to see it grow next year.

2013 Goals Reached That Were Not On the List:

  • Learning to Cook! We have maintained our cooking schedule of one week on, one week off all year long and we eat delicious food (probably 90% Paleo when at home). I also feel like we’ve learned a better kitchen rhythm cleaning-wise.
  • Finally starting to floss every day. Ha ha! I feel very proud of myself for actually starting a new habit. I have flossed every day except one since mid-September. This is a big accomplishment people. I never flossed before this.

2013 Goals Partially Reached:

  • John and I started experimenting with switching off “working” days at Crozier Photography but then things got busy with weddings. My most consistent role is simply doing the month-end bank reconciliation and printing out our Profit and Loss statements for review. We will likely revisit this question in the New Year and see how we feel about further division of labor.
  • Sewing. So the sewing machine did finally get pulled out but only for one project. I sewed an absolutely hideous but functional sleepsack for Canon since he outgrew his other one. I do feel like I learned a lot because I sewed a zipper and it actually worked. I would like to sew more things like new throw-pillow covers etc but that really hasn’t been a top-priority item.
  • I do feel like I have materials for another book percolating. I have a few major questions floating around in my head (re:church, parenting etc) that make me wonder if 2014 will bring another large writing project. I consider this prospect with excitement as well as dread.

2013 Goals Not Reached:

  • Well, I didn’t teach any workshops this year. The class I was scheduled to teach in the fall fell through because only one person enrolled. This was a disappointment but I am hoping that the class scheduled for February will get the five people required to keep it open. If you’re interested, it’s not to early to sign up!
  • I also did not write or publish any articles in magazines. I don’t think this is my thing. I printed out a bunch of submission instructions for various magazines but couldn’t really wrap my brain around what to offer. I’ve never been good at essays or short stories. I feel very constricted somehow and usually end up having to write some very long and then cut it to pieces to make it “fit.” So I won’t add this goal to my list for next year.

So there you have it. Overall, I’m so thankful for this year because it has been a much more restful year than 2012 (having a baby, publishing a book etc). I felt a lot less pressure about everything, spent most of my time on the floor with Canon, got used to having a very messy house, did a lot of cooking, read thousands of kid books (or rather read the same kid books a thousand times), read at least 45 grown-up books, and maintained this blog as a regular writing discipline.

I may blog one more time before Christmas but will mostly like be taking a break until January when you’ll hear about the 2014 goals I come up with.

What about you? What goals did you have in 2013? Did you reach them or redirect them?

Best Reads of 2013

Well, 2013 is drawing to a close and I thought I’d give you a look at my top reads this year. As I sorted the list I realized these selections are quite good indicators of the areas of life I dwell on the most these days: faith, parenting and work. And of course, I tend to look at all of these things in the context of calling.

Faith/Spiritual Living

favourite reads 2013The Prodigal God by Tim Keller. What a powerful little book. This is one of those short reads that you should probably spend a long time reading. It was a big eye-opener for me to realize I am definitely the older brother in this parable. I’m not sure I had ever heard anyone really talk much about the older brother, especially to show how he is equally lost – that it’s a parable of two lost sons, not just one.

favourite reads 2013The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. I wrote a little about this book here. It might seem like a typical self-help book but goes much deeper because Brown happens to be a research professor on powerful topics like shame and vulnerability, fear and courage and worthiness. She shares very personal stories to demonstrate this vulnerability and gives a few optional exercises to try at the end of each chapter. If you don’t have time to read, her two TED talks are a great option.

favourite reads 2013Awed to Heaven, Rooted in Earth by Walter Brueggemann. This is a book of poem prayers that a friend recommended and wow, both John and I were drawn to the raw honesty and piercing accuracy of our human ways. We read them aloud at dinner although I think it would probably be more worthwhile to read them with a journal handy. They’re beautiful and they really make you think. It’s good to be sort of “jarred” out of our normal approach to prayer.

favourite reads 2013The Lost Art of Lingering by Rowland Forman. This is a very practical, gentle guide to mutual mentoring and is packed full of resources on the topic of living the Christian life together. A good friend recommended this to me and it was a perfect refresher course for me after not reading anything on mentoring since college. Like, Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands by Paul Tripp, it’s a good reminder that we’re all supposed to be ministering to each other.

 

 

Children

favourite reads 2013How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlich. Wow, this book was fascinating and worth reading whether or not you’re a parent. The material in here can be applied with any kids you know and regularly hang out with. It’s easy to read with cartoon illustrations of their points and lots of great examples that put their ideas into context for you. I got it out on CD for John to listen to and he stopped it after only the first 20 minutes to talk about it with me because there was already so much good stuff to discuss.

favourite reads 2013Raising Cain by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson. There are some great resources out there on boys and emotional intelligence so I’m not sure if I liked this one best because I read it first or because of the title, but it was an excellent overview of how boys are often raised to be “emotionally illiterate” and how this can increase school troubles etc. There was quite a bit in there about how our school systems are not supporting how boys learn and grow. I find anything about educational theory and systems fascinating so that was very helpful for me.

favourite reads 2013How Children Raise Parents by Dan Allender. Just listened to this one on CD and it seemed like a short “read” – only 3 CDs. What I appreciated most about this book was the fact that we will fail as parents and that this is to be expected. His big points are that children have two main questions, “Am I loved?” and “Can I have it my way?” which we need to answer with a “yes” and “no” respectively. This is not a “how-to” book at all but it was a great perspective on how parenting changes us and how our children teach us.

Oh Crap! Potty Training by Jamie Glowacki. This isn’t on Amazon, so no picture. It’s a pdf book that I just read and I loved it. I’ve browsed through multiple potty-training books recently and they all seem a bit scared to pull any punches. They present options but don’t really want to tell you how to do it. This book is not scared to call it all like it is. I loved her emphasis on capability rather than the nebulous concept of “readiness”, how she blocks out the learning process and all the little tips and tricks to troubleshoot various issues.

 

Business/Coaching

favourite reads 2013Sticking Points by Hadyn Shaw. I blogged about this one here. This is a book every business needs to have on hand because every business is likely dealing with generational issues (actually it would probably be just as helpful for churches and extended families!). Shaw is fair to each generation and helps each generation see where the other generation is coming from. As a millennial, I’m sensitive to the fact that our generation is constantly under a microscope in the media. This book is an urgently-needed thoughtful counterbalance to a lot of the stuff floating around out there.

favourite reads 2013You Already Know How to Be Great by Alan Fine. Sounds cheesy I know. But his major point for coaches was that often our clients already know what they need to do and potentially even how to do it. They may not need more training or teaching (in fact that might make them perform worse – I talk a little about that here). What they really need help with is simply clearing out the noise and interference to help them focus effectively. He has a great model to use in coaching conversations that I have found effective in every day conversations as well.

The Advantage by Patrick Lencioni. I also blogged about this one here. This is one of those books that you wish every CEO was required to read before becoming CEO. It lays out very clear exercises to help leaderships teams get clarity and unity so that they can communicate effectively with those they lead. It all seems so simple when you read these kind of books and then you look around and wonder why it so rarely gets implemented. Possibly because it’s one of those very-hard-but-extremely-worthwhile things to do.

favourite reads 2013Switch by Chip and Dan Heath. Loved this book and all the other ones they’ve written as well. Great stories, simple but powerful concepts. I wrote about one of them here. These guys are so interesting and practical.

 

 

What were your favourite reads in 2013?

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What’s Wrong with Work Today: Time

You might faintly remember that I was doing a series on “What’s wrong with work?” awhile ago – well, I went back to check just how long ago it was and wouldn’t you know it, it’s been a WHOLE YEAR. I wrote about Money, Mastery and Meaning. In February I came back to the series talking about Management Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3. Is it irony that this last post is about time? We don’t have enough of it.

TimeIn my research into the nature of work, one of the aspects I found most interesting was the fact that we have changed from a task-oriented to time-oriented view of work. In the pre-industrial era, people worked on completing tasks: building a chair, tilling the field, sewing the dress, cleaning the stables. They probably worked the same amount of hours or even more than we do today but that wasn’t what their compensation was tied to.

Today, how many hours we put in can feel more important than what we actually accomplish during that time, which adds a new dimension of pressure to work.

Consider the billable hour. I worked at a graphic design agency where every 15 minute increment was technically supposed to be documented and billed toward the right projects. Design doesn’t work that way. Brainstorming and idea creation involve time to think. Some people mull through problems for a long time until they have everything thought out in their heads and then execute quickly. Others start doing right away and re-think as they go along. Thinking isn’t easily measured and don’t look “productive” from an outside perspective. 

Having to account for every minute of your day to show its productivity is enormously draining. In Daniel Pink’s book Drive he suggests that part of the reason lawyers are so miserable as a group is because of how minutely they’re required to track their time with each client, “For nonroutine tasks, including law, the link between how much time somebody spends and what that somebody produces is irregular and unpredictable.” While we’re obsessed with being more efficient and faster at everything we do, some work is seriously jeopardized when we try to hurry it along.

Sometimes, working fewer hours actually makes us more productive because we value our free time so much. In Joanne’s Cuilla’s book The Working Life she writes,

We actually have some record of what such a change [working less hours] might mean to a community: in 1930, in the teeth of the Depression, the cereal entrepreneur W.K. Kellogg put his workers on a six-hour day at full pay. Productivity increased dramatically, helping pay for the experiment. Meanwhile, the company town’s parks, community centers, churches, and YMCAs all flourished. Researchers who interviewed the townspeople found that their interests had grown and changed: they now asked themselves, “What shall I do?” not just, “What shall I buy?” (p. 115).

There are quite a few modern examples as well (Results-Only-Work-Environments are the most extreme version) and yet Americans still work longer hours and take far less vacation than most Europeans. And it’s not putting us that much farther ahead. Despite working fewer hours, the French are just as productive as the Americans.

There are all kinds of obstacles if you start trying to fix the time vs. productivity imbalance. Culturally, we’ve tied being busiest to being best. Touting the numbers of hours worked per week is a kind of status symbol (Maybe because so much of our work has lost meaning and time is the only “measurement” we can find to give us a sense of meaning?). Many people are doing the work of two or more people and no matter how long they work, can’t get through what’s expected of them. Some of us, if given the freedom to chart our own course, find it hard to self-motivate or learn how to work outside a 9-to-5 structure.

Have you struggled with living in a time-oriented vs. task-oriented culture? Have you struggled with the billable hour or with setting your own hours? Tell me about your experience.

Calling & A Meat Marination Stick

You’ll probably laugh about how much I thought about this story over the weekend! I read this NY Times piece on Thursday about a Christian lady who credits her invention of a meat marination stick to God. You should read it. And also watch the video of Mary describing her product. Go ahead, take a break, I’ll be here with my thoughts when you get back.

meat marination stick
Image Source: Cuisine Noir

Now if you’re like me, your first instinct when you hear someone say “God told me” is to tense up and wait for the crazy. And in fact, I likely read the entire article with a skeptical face. Sometime later in the evening, I realized I should know better by now. I’m always ranting and raving about how diverse our callings can be and about how we need to quit making secular/spiritual divides. I thought I’d already learned to appreciate how often God uses the material and the physical things of this world to shape, grow and bless us.

And I started thinking, What if God really gave her recipes? What if he really did give her a vision for this meat stick? Why not? I thought about heaven and considered the possibility that God uses material tools to create his feasts there even though I always picture it all appearing like magic. But what if God loves the process of cooking? What if he gave this lady a little gift from heaven to bless her family and church? Why not?

Maybe all that thinking is too crazy for you, but it totally reminded me again again that we tend to carry around assumptions and expectations about what makes a calling, or what work God is really trying to do, or how he wants people to serve each other. And these assumptions and expectations can blind us from seeing the work God is already doing in ours and other people’s lives. We can be so busy looking for what we think should be there, that we miss what really is. It’s another part of the reason, I really prefer to say that we recover our callings rather than discover them. Our callings are already present in our lives. Whether we can see them or not is the real question.

Have you had an experience like this?

Being present in our bodies

Happy Friday everyone! I had a few threads of thoughts converge for me this week from a blog post, a book I’m reading, and our discussion at life group on Jacob wrestling with God. I thought I’d just give you the gist:

1. Genesis 32:22-31 – Our discussion questions for this week asked why we thought God decided to physically wrestle with Jacob rather than to just talk to him. I had never thought about this but it brought back everything I’ve read about how much more we learn by doing rather than just by hearing/reading. Our beliefs are shaped by our practices – actions influence thoughts as much as or perhaps even more than thoughts influence actions.

It made me see that Jacob’s physical experience of struggling for control for an entire night and finally having to surrender probably had significantly more impact on his life than God just coming and saying “You need to trust me and let go of your own need to strategise about everything.” Fascinating, eh? It’s a lesson he learned in his body. And I’m betting he never forgot it either.

Experiences last in our memories so much longer than lectures. But we have to be present in the moment to learn them too. Jacob couldn’t exactly ignore another man physically fighting him, but I think for us, we often can ignore our own experiences that are trying to teach us something.

2. One Small Change: One LESS Thing – This blog post was so encouraging for me because I sometimes feel like this is my life right now and I felt encouraged to embrace it being this way! I’m not that busy but somehow I get busy every week. And I’ve realized over and over how many last minute things I say yes to because I am available. Sometimes, it does start feeling hectic but often I’m so glad “that worked out” and that I went ahead and answered that phone call, babysat or had a playdate or went to lunch etc. It’s another thing that helps me be present with people instead of living in my head.

3. The Lost Art of Lingering – I’m reading this book on Kindle (it’s a link to Amazon) and it is a great book on mutual mentoring (basically the idea that both people will learn from each other). The last chapter I read was on the simple practice of actually meeting together. The author also talks about how important it is to shut off distractions and be 100% in the present when you meet for mutual mentoring. He mentioned in passing how we can fill calendars up so quickly that we don’t leave room for these relationships that are really pivotal for our growth.

What I liked best about that blog post is that it’s about removing stuff from your life rather than adding something to the “to-do” list (note that Jacob was entirely alone when God shows up. He had sent his whole family and possessions across the river without him). How much do we try to cram all kinds of meaningful activities into your life because we don’t really want to do the waiting, listening and noticing part? How do we clear room to breathe and hear and follow our calling, not the hundred callings that everyone else expects. In the end, it boils down to paying attention – using our physical senses to raise our awareness and live a little more intentionally.

Why does it sound so easy and yet remain so hard?

How do we discern our callings?

I’m excited to be guest-speaking next week at a friend’s church on the topic of how we discern our giftedness and callings. So I’ve been digging through my research and it’s turning up so many gems that it’s hard to even know how to start! Today I wanted to link you up to some of my past posts on these topics in case you’re interested in a little refresher course:

The process of recovering a sense of calling in our lives involves raising self-awareness (Who did God design me to be?) and listening (Hello God, where are you leading me?).

We can’t just start with finding something to do – we have to start with who we are because God designed us uniquely and has unique purposes for each of us. In Listening to God in Times of Choice, Gordon Smith quotes Ernest Larkin on discernment, “Basically the difficulty in all discernment is personal inauthencity. If you are not in touch with yourself, if you don’t know what is going on, you cannot hear the ‘other’ even when the other is God.”

Smith writes, “If we do not accept who we are, and more, actually like who we are, we will probably not be able to meet God freely and respond to that encounter. We will always be attempting to be someone other than who we are; we will be living a lie.”

Often, understanding who God created us to be means first accepting who he did not create us to be. It means letting go of our own expectations and parental or family expectations and maybe even community expectations. It means evaluating all our previous assumptions about our lives and work. It means double-checking how we define calling, spiritual gifts, success and failure.

The outcome of this kind of work should be a new sense of freedom, responsibility, humility and gratitude.

Tell me about times in your life where you’ve struggled with discernment. What was the process like for you?

 

So let’s talk about failure

Well friends, today is October 16th – the day my first class at Edmonds Community College was supposed to start. Unfortunately, I only had one person register so the class was cancelled. I’m telling you this not to get sympathy hugs or emails, but because I know it’s one-sided to only ever talk about the good things that happen. It’s very tempting to just not say anything further about my class and hope that people don’t ask questions, assuming that it’s running or forgetting about it completely.

But I thought I should be honest. I was pretty disappointed Monday afternoon.

Feeling like a failureI felt discouraged. I felt like a door snapped shut in my face. I wondered how much “more” I could have done to promote it and how it’s possible that only one person registered considering the size of my networks and how many people pitched in to help share the news and promote with me. I felt embarrassed. Upset. Frustrated. And also a tiny bit relieved.

Relieved not to add one more thing to my plate right now even though it would only be five weeks. Relieved because it was the unknown and now I didn’t have to face it.

But I feel disappointed at being relieved too. I know how much facing unknown challenges can teach me.

That’s where the good news comes in: I still get one more chance to teach this class next quarter. Maybe it will fill up next time. If it doesn’t then maybe it’s just not the right avenue to take. And instead of calling it a failure, maybe I’ll just call it an answer.

In the meantime, I’m excited to prepare to guest-speak at a local church that is doing a series on calling in two weeks. It reminds me that opportunities often present themselves unexpectedly and right when you need an injection of hope.

Has that ever happened for you?

Joy is a signal

Joy signals our callingsYou know that feeling? When you’re involved in something and you’re just overwhelmed with joy? That thought of, “It couldn’t get any better than this!”? When those feelings are so big you can hardly contain them and you just want to burst with happiness? Have you ever had that happen?

If you have, it’s an experience you should review. The funny thing about joy is that we often pay less attention to it than we do to pain. In our moments of happiness we tend to analyze less and simply enjoy life. We don’t rack our brains for all the reasons we experience joy, we just feel grateful. We don’t pick at joy the way we pick at a hangnail. If you’re like most humans, you spend much more time focused on the negative than the positive. But joy is a big signal of our identity – of who God created us to be.

Merriam-Webster defines joy as:

  • a feeling of great happiness
  • success in doing, finding, or getting something
  • the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires: delight
  • the expression or exhibition of such emotion: gaiety
  • a state of happiness or felicity: bliss

Joy signals us in our callings just as much as pain or restlessness can. Those moments when we feel so alive are telling us who we are, what we care about, what we value most and we should pay attention because it’s likely that something about those experiences is part of our callings. I believe joy is a core component of our callings. If you feel like you haven’t found your calling, looking for where you experience the most joy is part of the discernment process.

There’s a great exercise that basically asks you to remember moments of joy you’ve had in your life and then dissect them a little bit to understand the pattern in them.

Maybe you’ve met one of those rare people who just love their work. They get up every day excited to start. I’ve even heard people say they feel like they’re not working at all (which doesn’t mean they aren’t working hard but that they don’t consider their work drudgery). These people have tapped into the joy in their callings and their enthusiasm is infectious.

Where do you find your joy?