I recently got to attend a great seminar on finding your “Dependable Strengths.” It was interesting to see that the core exercise was very similar to the Motivated Abilities Pattern that Arthur Miller suggests in his book The Power of Uniqueness. Today I thought I’d repost an exercise I blogged last year with a couple updates to the instructions from this seminar.
“The surest way I have found to unlock the essence of a person is to look at what he likes to do and do well.” – Arthur Miller
Jot down at least 10 experiences you can remember that satisfy the two criteria: things you enjoyed doing and things you did well.
Be specific about these experiences. List as many details as possible about what you were doing, how you did it, who else was involved and what you felt throughout the process. Here’s a handy acronym to help you:
- S – Situation
- T – Task(s)
- A – Action(s)
- R – Result(s)
These experiences don’t have to be from a job or school. If building sandcastles as a child was something you enjoyed doing and did well, then write about that! Cleaning your closet, dancing, leading meetings – it really doesn’t matter what realm of life your accomplishments come from or how tangible/abstract they are.
When you’ve written out these ten things that you enjoyed doing and did well, you want to look at the patterns. Even if the activities themselves are widely diverse, there will probably be things about each one that are the same.
Here are some questions to help you:
- Do your experiences all fall into one or two general categories of interest? If not, are there other things that each experience has in common?
- Did you see patterns to the situation, tasks, actions you took in each scenario?
- Look carefully at the results you wrote down. What do they tell you about your motivations?
- What did you enjoy most about each activity – your actions, the social factor, the environment you were in?
- If you had a hard time coming up with ten things you liked doing and did well, why do you think that was?
- Did anything surprise you?
If you try it, I’d love to hear what you uncovered about yourself!